“If you can’t agree that everyone, and anyone, has the absolute right not to be raped, without qualifying it, without comparing a woman’s exposed flesh to unprotected valuables, without wondering about the details of specific rapes, without auditing victims’ choices, without asking if a victim was ‘looking to get laid’, without insisting that you worry agreement with such a universal statement will make women careless (as if only women get raped; as if women’s vigilance is effective rape prevention), without proposing hypotheticals, without playing devil’s advocate, without feeling obliged to try to find some exception to that rule, you can’t be an effective ally in the fight against sexual violence.” —
Melissa McEwan (via earlyfrost)
I believe I have reblogged this before, as I will continue to do until I stop hearing people do the exact thing Melissa is describing.
“Nerds like us are allowed to be unironically enthusiastic about stuff. We don’t have to be like, ‘oh, that purse is okay’, or like ‘yeah, I like that band’s early stuff’. Nerds are allowed to LOVE stuff. Like, jump up and down in your chair, can’t control yourself LOVE IT. Hank, when people call people nerds, mostly what they’re saying is ‘you like stuff’. Which is just not a good insult at all. Like, ‘you are too enthusiastic about the miracle of human consciousness.’” —John Green (via abodycomingthroughtherye)
“A quick and simple rule for language and behavior if you want to be a decent person: Ask yourself, who is more likely to be made to feel comfortable around me based on whatever I’m about to say/do? Rape survivors? Or rapists? Who is more likely to be made to feel uncomfortable? If you’re doing something that is more likely to make rapists feel comfortable and/or rape survivors feel uncomfortable, then don’t do it!” —I did a guest post at Shakesville.